tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-372094005593265755.post5502650071744002670..comments2023-10-24T03:52:58.362-04:00Comments on Queen Christine's Decrees: Not Guilty! Dealing with Mommy GuiltQueen Christinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07373167995185554648noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-372094005593265755.post-86373980297460435852010-11-10T15:54:39.481-05:002010-11-10T15:54:39.481-05:00Great post! It's so true that often we end up ...Great post! It's so true that often we end up feeling guilty about opposite ends of the spectrum at different times (sometimes within the same five minutes). We live in a time when every few days a new study comes out telling us something else we should be doing or are doing wrong. It's hard to know sometimes how to filter all that in a constructive way. My MO so far is: read and research, talk to a lot of other moms, and then just do what works (which happens through a sometimes-alarming amount of trial and error). I will say the two main sources of guilt for me have been feeding and scheduling. (Breast feeding didn't work out, so now I'm pumping, which wasn't my ideal. Then came solids: What to feed and when? Too little? Too much? And then the scheduling: Am I being too structured? Not structured enough?) The good news is that so far, I've mostly been able to let go of the guilt and recognize that Corin has it pretty darn good. :)Jolenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16300891246505559311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-372094005593265755.post-82634179905941464852010-11-10T02:51:42.568-05:002010-11-10T02:51:42.568-05:00I don't even have Hadley outside my belly yet ...I don't even have Hadley outside my belly yet and I feel guilty about how I care for her.<br />Am I harming her by not exercising? Am I exercising too much and going to bring my contractions back?<br />Did I make a mistake when I got the flu shot??! I knew it was Class C, but it's also recommended, and I wouldn't get to see her in the NICU without it... Am I too selfish and dis I put her in danger because of that?<br />Do I worry too much about preterm labor? Should I just ignore my worries and assume it's all perfectly fine?<br /><br />Yep... I worry... A LOT... and I feel guilty about all the things I worry about because... Well, if I can't take care of her right when I'm pregnant, how the heck am I going to be a good mommy when she arrives?<br /><br />((hugs)) I get told that "It's the good moms that worry. You will start to wonder if someone is a decent mom if she DOESN'T worry about anything." I guess that makes me feel a little better sometimes. You're in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sure Jax and Hadley will love us til the end despite our worrying tendencies :)Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07409410292205184839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-372094005593265755.post-83308655484073638192010-11-09T23:39:13.051-05:002010-11-09T23:39:13.051-05:00I love that almost every picture of the two of you...I love that almost every picture of the two of you looks like you're about to devour Jax.Smrt Mamahttp://smrtlernins.comnoreply@blogger.com